"How anxious we ought to be to emulate the manner in which God wields power!" (Neal A. Maxwell, "Meekness—A Dimension of True Discipleship")
At the heart of "seek[ing] not [one's] own" lies the heavenly attribute of meekness. Throughout the last week, I have been studying what it means to really be meek. Elder Maxwell's talk goes into great detail about the importance of meekness and what it means to be meek. I won't try to summarize his talk, but instead I want to share a few thoughts that came to me as I pondered the words of the talk.
Elder Maxwell notes that "the Greek rendition of the word meek in the New Testament... is 'gentle and humble.'" As a part of the "body of Christ," it's important that we remember to "esteem other better than [our]selves" (Philippians 2:3) and to gently treat them accordingly. Isn't meekness a necessary precursor to charity?
So when we are seeking the Lord's will, instead of seeking our own, we need to remember that Christ exercised His authority in meekness. He did only "those things that please [the Father]" (John 8:29). He was "filled with compassion towards the children of men" (Mosiah 15:9). He was humble. He sought not His own. As we strive for charity, let us remember to meekly and humbly follow the example of our Savior in doing that which pleases Heavenly Father, especially when it involves kindly serving His children.